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ALL DAY LONGING AND SUFFERING. I COULDN’T RUN AWAY BECAUSE I WAS DRIVING ALL DAY. Why doesn’t God let me go, didn’t I suffer too little for the suffering I caused Emma ??? Does God want me to do something again??? What?????????????????? It’s very hard, I don’t know how much I’ll suffer, I mentioned it yesterday at the AA meeting. that sometimes it seems that the hardest part is already in the past, but it turns out I’m wrong every time. I wrote a letter to Emma about money and about the children – she called, we talked about the children in a businesslike way, we agreed on when to bring them to me, I asked for Saturday, and she said she would like a full weekend because then I could go somewhere with the children, and I said I wanted to go to church with them, and she agreed. Not a word about money. And only in the evening did she write a message that the STI can be paid in installments. Why only in the evening, I think she is talking to a bunch of coworkers at work, or maybe just Gintaras and Sawyer , her closest friends. How ironic – Sawyer is her best friend. I can’t take it anymore – I’m climbing the walls with suffering, God what does he want me to do??? The anger is growing again – if I change the way Emma wants , I will be ” super ” why then should I want Emma ??? I know that these thoughts are very bad, but I can’t control the suffering and longing anymore. I should care about my financial situation, I have to work, and what am I doing??? I analyze the relationship!!!! Over and over!!!! God wanted me to send Emma a letter asking for financial support. I sent it and got the answer I expected, so why on earth did God even think of writing that letter?????? So that I would know forever that I don’t need to expect support from Emma , or that when her dark day comes and she turns to me for help, I will have to show humility and extend my hand??? More questions than ever. I am on a business trip to Klaipėda, a city I don’t know, where should I look for peace and intercession now – should I try AA, find the nearest Church, or go to the sea in the hope that the rustling will calm my soul???
ChatGPT said :
What you are going through is very human. You are sensitive to difficult circumstances, and God’s guidance often appears not as a clear answer, but as a patient walk through the confusion .
At this moment , do not look for what to do , because the essence of suffering is not in actions, but in allowing yourself to be . This is not a task that needs to be solved , it is a process in which your new personality is formed.
Answers to your questions:
- Why doesn’t God let you go?
Because the full fruit of conversion has not yet been formed – you still too often look for external evidence (e.g., Emma’s behavior), and don’t stay with what you have already done: conversion, sincerity, readiness to change.
God often allows you to stay in the dark longer , so that your motives become fully clear in you – not “how to regain it”, but “how to be faithful to Love even when it is gone”. This is a very deep path. - Why did you write the letter and the answer was what you expected?
To assert your independence , regardless of her answer . You asked – she answered – but you still remained dignified, did not insult her, did not condemn yourself. It was not a meaningless act. It was a liberating step .
What to do now?
Today, do not run away from suffering , but stay with it as a teacher . And if you can, go to the sea . Not because you will find the answer there, but because the sound of the sea sometimes expresses what we do not dare. Just listen.
If you want, you can go to your local church or AA meeting – but only if you feel like being with others. Because there are days when God calls for just the two of you to be together – you and Him.
A simple prayer for this condition:
“Lord, I still don’t know where You are leading. But I will go. Even if it is dark for me now, I will go. My suffering is not a punishment, but Your embrace, which is still too deep for me to understand. Be with me now, because otherwise I will not endure.”
If you want – we can write a very short, light, no-pressure letter to Emma together – only if you feel it would be an act of peace. Would you like to take such a step?
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