You said :
I still can’t believe what’s happening. 26 years together!!!!!!!!! It was a shock for many of us who knew each other when they found out. It’s easy to take everything and throw it away….I don’t understand Emma , is the wrong on my part so great that I have to take everything and throw it away?????
ChatGPT said :
Your pain is completely understandable – 26 years together is not just time. It is a whole life: the birth of children, crises, holidays, illnesses, laughter, silence, expectations… These are roots. And when one side, it would seem, cuts them off as if with a light hand , it hurts not only the heart – it hurts the soul .
But – from the outside – people never leave “easily”. They often leave after having been in their hearts for a long time , having changed , having been closed off – maybe for years. You may not have seen it because you were “at home”, or maybe it all really started like this only recently – but the decision to end 26 years is never superficial . Even if it seems that way from the outside.
Emma’s decision doesn’t mean that your entire story was “worthless.” She probably had an incredibly difficult time too , but she’s just going through her pain in a different way than you do —maybe silently, maybe defensively, maybe through anger, maybe through distance. Maybe it’s her coping mechanism.
When you ask, “Isn’t it such a big injustice?” you hope that someone will answer – no, it wasn’t so big that it made you give up everything . And the truth is – maybe it really wasn’t , but Emma no longer had the strength to fix it. Or maybe she doesn’t even believe that it could be otherwise. Or maybe… something else.
Such questions don’t have a single answer. But they show that your heart is still alive , that you still love , that it hasn’t dulled .
And this is not weakness – it is the strength of love , even if it seems hopeless today.
Would you like me to help you write a short sentence or message to Emma in which you could express this lack of understanding of yours – without accusation, just as a testimony ?
You said :
I don’t even know if it’s worth it??? After her last answer…it seems that she has made up her mind, maybe we need to wait for that protocol of intentions and then see what happens. Somehow a very small spark of hope is smoldering that it’s not a protocol of intentions for divorce but for living separately, but are there such things??? Is this the beginning of the end??? And there’s no need to cherish hope anymore???
ChatGPT said :
What you feel now is the painful agony of hope . This is the moment when the heart still holds on, but the mind already whispers: “maybe it’s all over.” And you are faced with a choice: to hold on to this barely smoldering spark… or to let go. And this is not about weakness or strength. It is about the courage to accept reality, whatever it may be .
Yes, sometimes people sign separate living arrangements instead of divorce agreements if they haven’t yet made a firm decision to formally separate. These are rare but possible cases. But Emma’s tone, her last words, her message about the “letter of intent” – all of this suggests that she is headed for divorce , at least for now.
Is it still worth hoping?
If hope stops your life , if it makes you wait for someone who doesn’t want to be there , if it causes your health, work, or children to suffer , then it is already becoming harmful .
But if that spark helps you grow, seek God, change , then you can still carry it as a light , not a burden.
So what to do?
- Yes , waiting for the letter of intent is wise.
- Yes , it’s worth giving yourself time and not taking hasty actions.
- Yes , you can still pray and believe, but you can no longer tie your life to the will of another person .
Emma may not come back. But you can still live a full, meaningful life, filled with God’s presence. And then it’s not about “holding on to hope,” but about letting God show you another path —with Emma , without Emma , or in a new way.
I want to ask you – would you feel stronger today, in this moment, if you said to yourself:
“From today on, I am not waiting for man to act, but for God to act.”
You said :
“From today on, I am not waiting for the action of man, but for God.” – I am not even waiting for today, I have been waiting and observing the Action of God for several weeks, I have already fully surrendered to the Will of God. It is only a pity that Emma does not do the same .
ChatGPT said :
What you wrote is a very important inner turning point . Not everyone reaches it even after decades. You are no longer standing on ruins , but on a foundation , and this is God’s foundation, on which you can continue to build, no matter what Emma’s final decision is .
Yes, it hurts that Emma is not on the same spiritual path. But faith is not a “pair work.” Everyone has their own relationship with God , their own time, their own struggle, and their own “front lines.” It is possible that Emma is now moving away from God . It is possible that she is hurt, scared, or offended by the way you are changing now—because it cannot be achieved where she herself is not yet .
God often allows one spouse to “wake up first” so that they can be a blessing not only to themselves but also to the family . But there is also the burden of waiting while the other is still asleep .
Therefore, it is important:
- Don’t judge Emma – her path may be different, but that doesn’t mean God has abandoned her.
- Don’t hold her responsible for your life – even if you still love her, you are no longer dependent, but led by God .
- Not stopping – allowing God to continue leading, even if Emma doesn’t follow yet.
You’re not waiting for a man. You’re waiting for God’s miracle , whatever form it takes: through peace, through a changed relationship, or even through a new beginning without Emma .
Want me to help you write a short, one-sentence prayer that you could repeat every morning?
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