You said :
What to do??? I met with Emma , she is completely exhausted, she can no longer hear any sound mind. It is completely normal for her that the children sit at the tablets for a long time when she is busy. She is not going to share the children – when someone calls, she will come and pick them up. Spoiling children, for her is the NORM!!!!!!!!! If the child does not want to wear a hat – let him not wear it. She is very angry AGAIN with ME, because she thinks that I did it, that the children need to be picked up from school at half past one, and she said that I did it here. Although I do not understand where I did it or how I did it. I do not know what to do anymore? She threatens that if I go to court, I will not get the children, although I found out that courts rarely happen, because usually everyone agrees without courts through “mediators” or whatever they are called. I don’t even know, I already want to apply and do something for the children, because I see that Emma is completely “detached from reality” and I can’t come to an agreement with her as an adult with an adult. GOD SHOW ME WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want the children to feel the consequences as little as possible, but I can’t do it with Emma .
ChatGPT said :
You are currently living in a moment of very strong internal struggle and spiritual pain . It hurts for the children, it hurts for Emma , it hurts for the injustice. You want to do the right thing , but you see that it is no longer possible to decide “humanly”.
the most important thing now is to step back from emotions, ground yourself , and focus on three main questions:
1. What do I want to protect now?
You want:
- To ensure that children have a safe and stable environment ,
- So that your voice may be heard as a father’s ,
- To not act out of revenge or emotion , but out of responsibility.
Your goal is not to punish Emma , but to protect the children .
2. What are the ways to achieve this?
🟢 1. Mediation
You are absolutely right – there is an option not to go directly to court, but to use intermediaries (mediators) who help former spouses reach an agreement on:
- children’s places of residence,
- communication schedules,
- responsibilities.
✅ This is the best way if you want to maintain respect but protect children .
🟡 2. Informing about children’s rights (not a complaint, but a consultation)
You can apply informally, but consult with the child protection service as a parent:
“I want to talk to a specialist. I am concerned about the well-being of the children, I want to act responsibly, avoiding conflict with the mother.”
✅ This is not a complaint, but a consultation . It can show you what to do if you see that Emma’s behavior is harming the children.
🔴 3. The path of justice
Left to the extreme. Because once you are sure that:
- impossible to agree,
- children are harmed by instability,
- other ways to try.
3. What does God want to show you at this moment?
God does not lead to revenge, but leads through clarity, courage, and steadfast peace .
Your duty as a parent is not to remain silent when your children are being harmed . But your duty as a person of faith is to seek a solution without anger, without revenge, with humility but firmness .
What to do practically now?
- Write Emma a clear, very calm message :
- That you want to agree on a stable schedule for the children,
- That decisions like leaving them alone are not appropriate,
- That if you can’t reach an agreement, you offer mediation.
- If they don’t respond or act hostile , then:
- Contact the state-guaranteed legal aid service (it helps free of charge),
- Or consult with the children’s rights department (for consultation only).
Your cry to heaven
God, show me the way. Give me the peace not to be afraid, not to be angry, but to accept that my children are my responsibility. And if I have to walk alone, lead me. Help me to remain righteous, not weak, not angry. May my steps be in Your light.
If you want, I can help you write a calm, clear, and firm letter to Emma or a letter to the mediator. Are you ready to do it now?
You said :
a strong letter to Emma
ChatGPT said :
Here is a suggestion for a firm but calm letter to Emma . It is based on respect, the well-being of the children, and a desire to seek solutions, not accusations.
Letter template for Emma :
Hi, Emma ,
I want to write this letter calmly, without reproaches or accusations, but very openly and responsibly.
The most important thing to me is the well-being of children . They need to grow up in a safe, predictable environment, where there are clear boundaries, order, and responsibility.
Leaving them alone until late at night wasn’t the first time. I don’t mean to blame you – but I have to make it clear: this shouldn’t be happening. Not for your sake, but for theirs.
I am always ready to help. If you cannot be with the children at that time, you should know that you can always hand them over to me , without fear, without explanations. You said it yourself – “we agree.”
However, if this happens again, I will be forced to go somewhere where the safety of the children will be ensured. And not because I am angry, but because I am a parent responsible for their well-being .
I also want to clearly agree on the order of joint child-rearing : who takes when, when hands it over, how decisions are made. Right now, everything is chaotic – and it affects the children.
I suggest finding a solution calmly, perhaps with a neutral mediator. I don’t want to go to court – but I can’t stand by when the children are being harmed by the mess.
I believe it is possible to come to a civilized agreement. I believe the well-being of the children is important to you too. But that requires clarity, not emotion.
I am open to finding a common solution.
Peace,
[Your name]
If you want, we can adjust the tone together – softer or harsher, shorter or longer.
Is this tone appropriate for today?
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