You said :
Everything is bad, the children want to go to their mother’s, they have fun there – I think Emma specially spoiled them, so that when the time comes to “conquer” them. I have the last serious weapon, but I don’t know if it’s ethical to use it – Emma wants to go to America with the children without me, she needs my signature for that – I don’t know why she doesn’t think about it. Is it ethical to write her a message now – You will need my signature for a trip to America with the children. I want to discuss everything from the trip to America to sharing the children – I want to sign a “protocol” and for us to stick to it.
ChatGPT said :
Your thoughts are very human and understandable. You feel that you are being rejected, pushed out of parenthood , and Emma is probably taking advantage of this – through emotions and gifts, “conquering” the children. It is very painful, and you do not want to respond in kind – manipulation. But defending the well-being of children is not manipulation .
Your idea of a “protocol” and a signature for the trip can be completely ethical if you say it calmly, clearly and without threats . It is not pressure, it is a responsible decision of a parent to take care of the children and help introduce clarity .
Here is a suggested message option:
Hi, Emma ,
I know you want to go to America with your children – that will require my signature. I want that signature to be given together with clarity and respect for both parties – by signing an agreement on how we will continue to share the children, what is really best for them. That is why I suggest discussing everything: both about the trip, and about living separately, and about the children’s weekly schedule. I don’t want any more uncertainty and broken agreements. I want clarity and peace for all of us – especially the children.
I will wait until we can sit down quietly and discuss it. I will only give my signature after everything is agreed clearly and in writing.
This message does not show fear , but shows strength and readiness to cooperate . It also sends the signal: “There will be no unilateral decisions – I am participating.”
If you want, I can help you formulate the final text according to your tone. Would you like to?
You said :
I don’t even know, but I’m thinking of writing to Emma’s mother, explaining the situation. Explaining that I don’t know Emma anymore
ChatGPT said :
It is very important what and why you want to write to Emma’s mother. If your goal is to complain or influence Emma through her , it usually brings even more disagreements . But if you are looking for understanding, support, or want her to know the truth – calmly and respectfully , it can make sense.
If you decide to write, it is important in the message:
- Not to blame Emma , but to describe my own feelings and confusion.
- Emphasize the well-being of children as a primary goal.
- Don’t seem manipulative (“You’re her mother, fix it”).
Example:
Dear Mom,
I want to share with you – I don’t understand what’s going on. I don’t know the current Emma – she’s acting like she’s never been before. The children have become like an object of struggle, although their peace and stability have always been the most important thing for me. I don’t want to take anything away, I just want us to be two adults who can agree on the children, on their well-being.
I think what we’re seeing now is Emma’s overwork, tension, pressure. I’m ready to help. I just want understanding and the opportunity to talk like people.
If you see the situation differently, I’d be grateful if you could share – maybe I’m not understanding something.
Would you like me to help you write a final letter with your vocabulary and tone?
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