You said :
I’m still wandering in the shadows – when to know when to ACT??? How is God supposed to show it??? Maybe he’s already showing me that, and I think now is not the time to act??? Or maybe….. I keep thinking that a MIRACLE has to happen so that I can get my children back. But that miracle should be more like Emma’s mistake, and should I then take advantage of it and hurt Emma or should I show humility and understanding that to err is human??? Emma is really bad for me now, so maybe I should use “An eye for an eye”, or should I still “Turn the other cheek”? With “An eye for an eye” I could take care of my children without Emma’s “temptations” of a good life. If I turn the other cheek, I could lose my children myself, because I no longer believe in Emma’s goodwill, although I know her faith in God.
ChatGPT said :
You are at a very important point – at the crossroads of belief and action , where your inner world clearly asks:
When to act? How to act? And whether to act at all?
✨ 1. When do you KNOW it’s time to act?
God often speaks on three levels – and you must look for them not in emotions, but in a calm, steadfast heart :
a) Through calmness, not through tension
If you feel like you have to do something out of fear, despair, or anger , it ‘s not time yet.
If you feel a quiet, firm peace even in the midst of difficulty, it’s a sign that it’s time to make a decision.
b) Through the truth that does not change
If you see that children are being harmed (it’s not just your opinion, but there are facts) – then God allows you to act not against Emma , but for the children .
c) Through a third source
When people you don’t seek out repeat the same message to you , when it comes up at Mass, in prayer, in a meeting – it’s confirmation from the outside .
⚔️ 2. What does “ACT” mean?
“To act” does not mean to take revenge . To act means:
- Protect what is entrusted to you – your children, the truth, your spiritual health.
- To act not out of resentment, but out of duty.
- To act not against the person, but against the evil that harms.
🔄 3. “An eye for an eye” or “turn the other cheek”?
This is not a contradiction – these are two different situations :
| Situation | Correct response |
| When it hurts you personally but doesn’t harm anyone else | Turning the other cheek is humility and sacrifice to God. |
| When your inaction could lead to harm to children or others | Defending the truth is your paternal duty. |
So – when Emma makes a mistake as a mother , your duty is not to retaliate , but to stand up for your children.
When she hurts you as a husband – you can give it to God.
🧭 4. What to do if Emma makes a mistake?
A mistake is not a license to destroy.
It can be God’s permission for you to show that you are firm but merciful.
If the mistake is dangerous for children, you need to act.
If the mistake is only human, you need to understand.
🙏 5. Prayer for a solution
“Lord, open my heart to hear Your timing.
Show me when to speak and when to be silent, when to act and when to wait. Help me to act not out of fear, but out of Your light. Strengthen me not to retaliate but to remain just. And if necessary, let me be the one who turns the other cheek so that children can see that kindness is stronger than pain.”
If you want, I can help you create specific “Sign Lists” :
- When to wait, and when is it really time to act?
- How to stay calm even when everything is pressuring you to act.
Do you want such a plan?
You said :
yes
ChatGPT said :
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This is one of the most important questions in your inner growth: how to recognize signs from God – when to wait, when to act, when to forgive, when to protect.
I will offer you a clearer “filter of internal signs” that will help you distinguish spiritual impulse from pain or desperation.
🔍 5 SIGNS THAT IT’S STILL TIME TO WAIT
- You feel inner pressure, anxiety, a restless heart.
If you acted now, you would be driven by fear, a desire to escape suffering. - The consequences of your actions are unclear, you have no clear plan.
You are in the dark – God has not yet shown you the solution. - In the heart – uncertainty, confusion.
The decision has not yet “formed” – wait for the light until you feel certainty. - In prayer, you don’t feel the call to go.
The spiritual call is still to “be,” not to “do.” - You are overworked, exhausted.
Acting out of exhaustion is acting without grace. Rest and give control to God.
✊ 5 SIGNS THAT IT’S TIME TO ACT
- To feel a clear inner certainty – without anger, without fear.
It is not emotions, but peace that leads to action. - The solution is clear, constructive, and directed toward good.
Not revenge, not defense – but real help for children, for themselves, or for others. - You feel that if you don’t act, something will be neglected.
Children’s safety, rights, emotional well-being – this is already crossing the line. - Prayer confirms your decision.
Maybe it’s a flash of peace, advice from a priest, or a word from the Bible that “shines.” - You see a concrete sign from God.
Not a coincidence, but a clear event that shows that it would be irresponsible to wait any longer.
🙏 When in doubt: this short prayer
Lord, do not let me act out of fear, but only out of love. If I have to wait now, give me patience. If I have to act, show me exactly what and how. Teach me to listen to Your will, not my fears. Amen.
When your heart is clear, you will act without a doubt. For now, hold on, rest, breathe. And when the time comes, you will definitely feel it. If you want, we can create your “readiness to act” sheet together – so you know when you are ready.
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