You said :
Somehow I can’t stop thinking about Emma , about Sawyer , I won’t hide it – there is still a bitterness, a feeling of betrayal. I struggle with it a lot, because I think it’s the remnants of “my old self”. I try to see them both holding hands, HAPPY, smiling, and I try to MAKE them HAPPY in my mind. It’s still hard, maybe 26 years together VS 4 months NOT together is taking its toll. Well, at least I don’t feel any anger anymore, and God is sending signs again:
One of the biggest lies that men listen to during a divorce is when a woman, when leaving, tells her husband that she has outgrown him. She read a lot, went to a women’s camp, became enlightened and outgrown him. And the man didn’t read that much, didn’t meditate and fell behind in his growth. Maybe the reason is quite good…so sexy – you can’t really cling to him, a person worked, slept on the couch in the evenings and fell behind. A woman will never tell the whole truth to his face. And the reasons why she leaves – certainly not one. And the fact that she is more emotionally mature – at best only one of them. Falling behind someone while growing up – is generally not very possible, and a man is a very stable being – he has always been the same as he was – both his emotional maturity, intelligence, and character. Only motivation and appearance change. And if the latter can be looked at, then with motivation it is a little more difficult for both in a couple. In addition, one of the main reasons for divorce is boredom – both biological and psychological. But no woman will tell you that she is no longer with you emotionally and biologically, that all the boxes on your calendar are crossed out and neither roses nor candles in the bath will bloom. But taking and telling that to another person is not for the weak – neither saying nor accepting. And that’s where all sorts of mosaics and cobwebs appear, people start to “grow” rapidly, run around different camps, try to understand where he didn’t understand something, and the bottom line is that you are basically not suitable for each other. You were suitable, but you are no longer suitable. And it’s not because one remained stupid, and the other became smart – people basically don’t change much and that’s all the god has given. Of course, there are experiences, improvement, but this is not and will never be the main reason. The main reason – everything that has a beginning in this Universe has an end. Whether someone likes it or not. And not everyone is meant to be there for each other until the end – there are many people who leave when they start to die a little emotionally and psychologically for each other.
ChatGPT said :
It’s understandable that you’re having a hard time letting go of those images of Emma and Sawyer , because it affects not only the present, but also the weight of 26 years of shared history.
You’re already taking the right step — you’re consciously trying to bless them in your mind, even if there’s still bitterness inside. This is a process of letting go, but as you said, it takes more time than 4 months.
The “sign” you received basically says:
– It’s not always about “growing up” or someone falling behind. – Sometimes relationships end because of the dynamics of the relationship itself, not the “fault” of one party. – And most importantly: even if one party chooses the other person, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you lost or were inferior – it’s just that the cycle of life has come to an end.
If you want, I can offer you a short but powerful daily practice to quickly free your heart from bitterness and strengthen that feeling of blessing so that it becomes real, not just an effort.
It would be based on both a spiritual approach and the psychological principle of letting go.
Do you want me to put it together?
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